When life gives you lemons......

The already well known proverbial phrase is primarily used to encourage optimism and a can-do attitude in the face of adversity or misfortune. Unfortunately, there are some differing individuals that adopt a different attitude when they are confronted by "lemons":

Not only do some respond in this manner, there are some, to a greater extent, will start to whine! In my personal opinion, such inferior response can be attributed by the individual's low AQ (Adversity Quotient). AQ is a recent development by Dr. Paul Stoltz which he define AQ as  “the capacity of the person to deal with the adversities of his life. As such, it is the science of human resilience.”  AQ, in my opinion, can also be loosely associated with EQ (emotional quotient). Generally speaking there will be a direct correlation between the two components. I guess the general link between the AQ and EQ part would be rather self explanatory. However, there is this one little part where most of us would pay little or zero attention to which, in my opinion, is a crucial element in both AQ and EQ. That's none other than acceptance.

Acceptance in human psychology is a person's assent to the reality of a situation, recognizing a process or condition (often a negative or uncomfortable situation) without attempting to change it, protest, or exit. Let us use an example to illustrate the component here:

In a group project, the team is assigned with the task to design the new model of laptops casing for the company. After all the time and effort that was put into the design, the boss decides to add their logo into the laptop casing which will tarnish the beauty of the design on the laptop casing. Then the design was produced and given to all the employees to try (all of them are enforced to use the product) and provide constructive remarks. However, one starts to slam the design for being amateurish and weird and initiated to boycott the casing even though it is a must for them to use it.

As shown above, the denial of having the unwanted stuff coming into your way will reflect badly on you for being not supportive and appreciative of the efforts that the team had put in. This clearly illustrates that the inability for one to accept the situation (Low AQ) and sympathize the other person (Low EQ) for what he and she has to go through. Eventually this will consequently result in the rising resentment that is set against you.

In conclusion, always remain optimistic even if you are "badly attacked by the lemons" and at the same time do not be selfless by "sharing the lemons" with those who do not deserved it! Like what all the NSFs love to say: "suck it up and you will eventually see the glimpse of light at the end of the tunnel!"

P.s. Your (her) heart is full of unwashed socks. Your (her) soul is full of gunk …The three words that best describe you are as follows, and I quote, “Stink, stank, stunk!”